Rafti, rafti Khuda nighban e tu boshad,
Shams e qamar e, sitora hum rohe tu boshad
By
Ghulam Amin Beg
On Sunday, 21st December, 2014, I lost my father to heart
failure. May his soul rest in eternal peace!
He was 86 years of age diagnosed
and under medication for hypertension, diabetes, reduced functioning of kidneys
and had a history of stroke some years back and recently taking medicine for
mild AR. He was under treatment of Medical
specialist, cardiologist Dr. Abdul Rehbar in Gilgit and nephrologists Brig. Dr.
Haleem in Islamabad. More recently he had undergone TURP operation for
prostrate at Quaid Azam International Hospital Islamabad under surgeon
urologist Dr.Fayaz Bangash. For some
years he was also diagnosed with glaucoma of eyes and was under treatment of
Dr. Anwar in Islamabad and Dr. Qayum in Gilgit. He was quite happy and
satisfied with the doctors mentioned above, and we thank them all for their
healing touch, gentleness and support to my father for last many years.
But he was otherwise okay, walking, talking and taking routine diet and
taking good care of himself. He was very regular in taking medicines and eye
drops as well his regular diet, except for the last 4-5 days when started
refusing regular diet and shifted to liquid. He has this amazing spirit of
resilience and high will power and would always combine both allopathic
medicines with traditional treatment through diet regulation and body and mind
relaxation, applying indigenous techniques he had learned from his father and
grandfather and would prescribe for others also and highly cherish this family
legacy he carried and would generously teach others. Even during the last month
of his life he used to receive patients with orthopedic cases regularly at home in Gilgit and Gulmit,
received delegation of visitors and community leaders and participated in
funeral services and visitation to those sick and talked to people over the
phone. Traveling was his passion, though
he would usually pick his day, especially when it came to going to a doctor or
returning back to our native village in Gulmit or to Yarzrich in Chupurson
valley, where he started with other elders land development three decades ago,
and had this strong territorial sense to defending the village boundaries of
Gulmit from Baldihale to Yarzrich. He
would never feel easy outside the area and would always insist on going back to
his birthplace.
Despite our reservations, he recently moved to Gulmit, our native
village on 7th December for supervision and preparation of the
marriage arrangements of my younger sister planned for 16 December, he was in
high spirit and advising us throughout on the traditions and invitations etc. He
used to say, jokingly, this was his last participation in a marriage, so he
advised us not to forget any close relative, especially women members of the
family and relatives, the old and the sick, and those who have lost their loved
ones, and do invite them and prepare gifts for them. We prepared the list with
his consent and updated him regularly on the status of preparations. He insisted
on preparing the traditional dishes and also keeping simplicity and honoring
the rules set by Ismaili institutions.
On 13th December, he attended the ‘bet risid’-ribbon cutting ritual, and
also received a community delegation meeting at our home, discussing community
development issues, even entering into hot discussions on some issues with
members on accountability and managing Panjasho Oston trust income, I was told
later, as I was not present, though he briefly updated me in the evening as to what was discussed in the meeting and that I should now be taking interest in
these affairs and provide guidance to the VO and community on such issues, as he may not be able to continue
this role for long. I felt he was disheartened by the discussions, and told him not to worry, we were all
with him and he can better advise us all.
During the week, dozens of people, relatives, friends, old patients of
his, well wishers and community elders visited him to ask about his health,
which is a tradition in our area, and this in a way proved to be his final
greetings with all of them.
On 14th December, he had a minor complaint of dehydration and
stopped normal diet intake and started his traditional recipe, so that he was
fit on marriage day. My younger brother Fazal Amin Beg and elder brother
Chairman Rehmatullah Beg from Karachi called Sahib Jan, from Civil Hospital
Gulmit requesting him to visit home. He visited him and along Sabrina ( my
niece, daughter of elder brother recently graduated from AKUSON, who came all the
way from Karachi to meet grandpa) helped administer dextrose drip and
injections.
‘Boys, I am going to die. Lets
pray I survive through your sister’s marriage tomorrow’, my father told me and
younger brother on the night of 15th December, while taking sips of
cold water, which he used to take come what may. ‘Don’t ever stop giving me
cold water, this is my advice to you’ he said, when I offered him warm water,
as it was too cold and could lead to throat and chest infection.
I used to joke with him, and knowing he was deeply spiritual person
inside, I told him, “ Father, don’t play
God, as only He knows who will die, when, how and where, nothing is going to
happen, you just try to take some food and hot fluid you are going to be fine.
We will leave for Gilgit after the marriage ceremony is over’, I suggested. He
shook his head in negation, and said, “you don’t know, I know my health. I am
having strange dreams, and all our grand ancestors are constantly gathering
around our house in dream, dancing and seemed to be celebrating something” he
was firm in his conviction as to why the spirits were on the move. “Don’t move
me from here”, he advised.
However, after the administration of drip, he sounded improving with no
major complaint, except reduced intake of normal diet and speed breathing when
walked to washroom, still refusing to leave for Gilgit on this pretext or the
other. On 20th December, Ahmedullah from Sost visited him, and upon
his request to visit his doctor in Gilgit and that he will also accompany him,
he agreed to leave the next morning.
On Sunday, 21st December, Ahmedullah came, as we wanted to
leave in his vehicle, but suddenly my father’s blood pressure lowered down to
95/50. It was around 11:45 a.m. Saleem Hyder and Ahmedullah advised to bring
ambulance and we accompanied my father from our home in Gulmit for the local
Civil Hospital in Chamangul, only 10 minutes drive to rush to the doctor for emergency
support seeking help to providing emergency oxygen and do nebulisation, before
we could take him to a physician in Gilgit, almost three and half hours away.
Still a long way to go and we put our fingers crossed as to what will happen
next!
As we reached the Hospital, Salim Hyder and Dr. Akram Khan, Medical
Officer, came to see him in the parking lot, after initial examination inside
the ambulance and based on his earlier visit to my father three days back at
home regarding complaints of dehydration and knowing he was taking medicines
including one for heart disease (digoxin 0.25 mg) prescribed by Dr Rehbar, the
doctor declared heart failure and pulmonary edema, and advised us to immediately
shift him to Aga Khan Health Aliabad Hunza, as there was no oxygen available,
nor there was nebulizer in the Government Civil Hospital at Gulmit. We rushed
to the boat after Salim Hyder administered injection lasix 20mg/2ml on the
advice of the doctor. My younger brother Attaullah Baig, elder sister Parveen
Rehmat and brother in law Shiekh Hasan and Qasim bhai from Ghulkin accompanied
my father in the final leap of his journey. My mother, two sisters, my wife and
son and nephews also accompanied us in another vehicle.
Obviously, the Government ambulance that took him from home had no such
facilities or services either. Afzal
bhai, the Ambulance driver took care of everything, from calling Aliabad to
arranging for an ambulance, to coordinating for the boat service with Salim
Hyder and Sahib Jan, to shifting us and we rushed to the Ayeenabad boat stand,
where the emergency boat service was available. The laborers and passengers
helped us and my father was shifted to the emergency boat on a stretcher
provided by the hospital ambulance. The emergency boat, operated under the
administration of the health department, had no such services like oxygen,
nebulizer or a professional attendant to provide emergency care on the route.
Again, the boat operator and Afzal bhai, the ambulance driver who accompanied
us to the next spillway stand, were and remained the only ray of hope, in case
anything happens on the way!
It took us 25 to 30 minutes to reach the Ataabad spillway, and the
ambulance had reached there inland from Aliabad Civil Hospital. My father was
shifted again from the boat to the ambulance with help from the laborers and
passengers and we rushed to Aliabad, which took us another 30 or so minutes.
At the gate of Aga khan Health
Center Aliabad we stopped and my elder sister and I went inside to know if
doctors were available and if they could provide emergency service. The nurse
on duty came and told us there was only one doctor who was in ICU and providing
emergency treatment to a third degree burn case. We can see young attendant
worried outside. We requested the nurse and told him the emergency nature of
the case, she went inside ICU and the doctor came out and examined my father in
the ambulance, and advised to rush to Gilgit, as nebulisation will take over
one hour and we must not lose time. He asked the ambulance driver if there was
enough oxygen available, he said 50% had been utilized already, and the doctor
told him to borrow one from them (Aga Khan Health), but the nurse said even they
don’t have auxiliary small cylinders either for ambulance, and the nurse
plugged in the oxygen, and we were advised to rush to Gilgit with the half-filled
oxygen cylinder as time was ticking.
On the way, my father was conscious and at each spot my younger brother
would tell him where we had reached. In Sikandarabad Nagar, the oxygen cylinder
emptied and we were worried. At around 3:25 p.m. around Rahimabad, my father
breathing slowed down, and around Nomal- Sultanabad we could sense something
went wrong. The driver rushed the ambulance, and we reached Aga Khan Health
Center Gilgit. I jumped out and went to the emergency and the doctor was on
round. He came within half a minute and we took him to the ambulance to
shifting my father to the emergency. Upon examination, his first reaction was
there was no pulse, then he did further examination and asked the nurse to take
BP, looked into his eyes, and examined feet and legs, and declared that he had
expired!!
My elder sister was along, and all in cries. We had to manage the
situation, said our prayers and calmed her down and I requested the ambulance
driver to take us to the nearest Ismaili Jamat Khan mortuary in Zulfiqarabad
for funeral arrangements and services and onward transportation of the body to
Gulmit the next morning. My first call was to uncle Sarfraz breaking the bad news
and requesting him to inform the mortuary service, and second call was to Mukhi
Amir Hayat in Gulmit to do arrangements and third to elder brother in Karachi
to book flight and return the next day.
My mother, two sisters, my wife and son and nieces/nephews who also accompanied
us in another vehicle, we advised them to reach home in Sonikot, as we were
returning home.
The whole evening and night relatives, community members and friends
came to see us and stayed the night with the dead body at the Zulfiqarabad
mayat room.
The next morning we left for Gulmit, and on the way at Aliabad, members
of Gojal community and relatives and friends offered fateha. We reached Gulmit
by 11:00 a.m. and the funeral service and namaz janaza was offered and the body
was buried in peace amongst thousands of mourners on 22 December.
This was the story of the last journey of my father.
Like all good fathers are, my father was a great human being; humble,
honest, loving and compassionate. We lost our provider, teacher, protector, a
great friend, change agent, our leader, our hero and our inspiration in life. He
was social, highly spiritual, humanitarian and generously sharing his skills,
knowledge and whatever material goods he owned with us and with others. He was
18 when he started receiving patients at home, visited long distances to treat
patients for free for almost 68 years. He treated over 40,000 patients during
this period, and almost 80% of them visited our home for treatment, and he
would always consider them guests and advise us to honor them as guests. He
lived a full life engaged in all kinds of traditional sports, adventure travel,
business and trade travel in those days to Afghanistan, started his own
business, as tribal elder, participated in tribal, regional and communal politics and acted
as arbitrator, facilitator in inter-family, inter and intra village and area based disputes resolutions
etc, in the area. He had the power and ability to adjust himself to changing
social and political situations and always remained a key driver and learner in local affairs, and kept
himself abreast of new developments in the area, GB, Pakistan and even the broader
region surrounding our area.
For the family, he has left behind a legacy of serving
the community without any social titles and economic return, a hope for those
who came to him for healing, making himself always available to the sick and to
those in pain. He has this strong sense of sovereignty and trusteeship of the
territorial boundaries of the area, especially ownership and protection of the
natural resources and rangelands, and would always advise us to be proactive in protecting the interests of
the area and the community at large. He strongly believed in kinship and
tribal relationships in our historical and socio-cultural context, and would
always find time in explaining to kids and elders alike of the blood relations
and strong network of family and relatives that one must recognize and maintain
relations for generations, irrespective of time and space. He would always advise us, the sons, to keep their unity, keeping the doors open to sisters and
women members of the extended family and always providing support whenever they
look back to their parent’s home, especially never forgetting them when there
are happy occasions in the family. And lastly, always keep in touch with your
roots, never ever resort to selling the ancestral land and always keeping links and making ourselves available to
the community in times of need, grief and other occasions.
May his soul rest in eternal peace.
We thank the hundreds of community members, friends and relatives who
visited him during his last days at home, participated in his funeral services
and sent us condolence messages and prayers. We really found comfort in your
words and prayers.
Our deepest gratitude to all those mourning with
our family, especially to those friends and relatives who attended and accompanied him during last days, and joined us during his last journey.Grateful to those who offered their prayers through telephone, sms, facebook and social media.